You know how I keep telling you how blessed I am and how I feel I’ve made all the right choices by having a child early on in life? I’m more and more convinced every single day. I have so many young people around me that silently resent the choices I make by saying they wanna live before they have a child. They want to travel around the globe, study, learn and enjoy life, all of which they cannot do once they ‘settle down’.
So, first of all: this is me asking why? Why the f*ck can’t you live when you have a family? Do people really imagine childbirth is like signing your own death certificate? I got to thinking tonight: why live a life to have cool stories to tell your child? Why wouldn’t you want to share that life with him (or her)?
What’s sad is people realizing (once they’ve finished doing all the intensive living) somewhere around their midlife crisis that they’re borderline infertile and in a hurry to ‘settle down’ as fast as possible. Never mind the ‘down’, I think people just start settling for less just because they’re in a hurry.
“I’m just not ready to have children yet.” Mark my words: you will never be 100% ready. In fact, you’re becoming less ready by the minute. First of all: becoming a parent is scary stuff – for everyone. Secondly, the female fertility reaches its peak around the age of 20 and older eggs have a larger risk of improper chromosome division. In addition to that, I personally can’t imagine having as much energy to manage the tireless Duracell bunny that is my child at the age of 40. What I’m saying? Don’t put off things that you’re better off doing sooner rather than later.
I know this is provocative and has so many different sides to it. Of course I don’t expect people to start reproducing mindlessly just because they have to. Of course it should be with someone you love and trust enough to share your life and dreams with.
I’m just tired of all the excuses and I expect people to take full responsibility for their own lives. Every single day I hear people complaining about their quality of life. 25-year old grown ups moving abroad, running off to the other side (where they hope the grass will be greener), shaking their heads in this infuriating patronizing manner and saying: “I don’t know how you do it, I just caaaaaan’t live like this anymore!” If you can’t manage (i.e. taking charge of your own life, working hard to reach your goals, taking on the responsibility of parenting), don’t, but admit it’s because you’re weak or scared. If you feel like you can’t travel with a kid, use the correct terminology. In stead of saying it isn’t possible, say you can’t be bothered to because it’s an inconvenience.
I personally think people just need a nice cup of man the hell up 🙂