We have a hot debate going on here in Estonia about whether or not arranging kids beauty pageants should be allowed or not. I thought it was common sense to realize how brain damaged it is to put make up and spray-tan on three-year old children, but apparently not.
Sure, there’s an aspect of letting a little girl mimic what grown women do. We’ve all stumbled around in our mothers’ killer heels, experimented with make-up and had curlers stuck in our hair to a point where they have to be cut off together with a lock of our hair. There’s nothing strange about letting a little girl put some lip gloss on or painting her nails if that’s what she wants. But it’s all supposed to be a game, a playful part of a little girl growing up to one day become a woman.
If my little girl comes to me one day and asks me to sign her up for a pageant, I will. But let’s be honest – children don’t come up with ideas like that on their own. No child I’ve ever met would want to inhale sickening amounts of hairspray, have their hair bleached, their legs shaved, false lashes glued to their little eyes or their perfect skin covered in nasty amounts of foundation and powder.
Saying pageants are a fun way of letting girls be girls in the center of attention and become confident little ladies in the limelight is like saying communism is a realistic and functioning social order. It all sounds picture perfect in theory, but in reality, it’s just a way of teaching your child she’s not good enough the way she is. Sure, it’s all about how the mother handles it, how she tells her little girl she’s perfect just the way she is. Teaching her to value inner beauty and true virtues. But you all know as well as I do a mother can only do so much in a child’s development. Society does the rest.
Bottom line: a pageant is about the prettiest girl winning. It’s a freak show where children are costumed and made up, often to look like miniature prostitutes. A child should spend her days knee-deep in sand and dirt, playing with toys, running around outside, drawing, singing, reading. Children are creative, innovative little creatures. They need a positive outlet for their massive creativity to learn, grow and be the best they can become. Putting them on a stage to mimic grown up behavior and then giving them medals for looking and acting like what a jury expects them to is in no way beneficial for a child.
What’s even worse is thinking a child could in any way grasp what being in the public eye (especially if it’s only for being a pretty little thing) means. If you’re going to have pictures of your little girl walking a pageant stage wearing dresses and make-up circulating the Internet, how about you go ahead and explain to her who a pedophile is to begin with. That should put things in perspective.
If you want your little girl to have the chance to play with make-up, give her your make-up bag and see what happens. If you want her to practice walking in heels, give her your shoe collection and let her have all the fun in the world. Don’t let her be a part of something her tiny mind couldn’t possibly begin to understand. Let a child be a child.
Children aren’t supposed to be drinking caffeine and energy drinks, are they?
Oh, look! A tiny prostitute! Wait, WHAT?!