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Thoughts on parenting: Your child’s eating habits

November 11, 2013~ chit-chat, kroonprintsess: areng, kroonprintsess: kasvamine, motherhood

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I think some of the most limited people in the world are the kind who don’t eat different kinds of food. Like me, for example – ever so often I have to apologize and say “I’m sorry, I don’t eat that”. For someone who enjoys cooking and eating as much as I do, that’s an enormous limitation. Now I don’t know if that’s because I was born a little snob or if my mom did something wrong along the way so I won’t analyze that much further for now. But I’ll share some thoughts I have on the topic as a mother.

The worst thing a parent can say to a child is “you won’t eat that anyway!”. We’ve discussed this before when my child was still a baby and just started weaning and I think now what I thought then. But it’s more complicated now.

I remember from my own experience growing up that kids get all sorts of weird ideas. I also know that those ideas pass if they’re not proven to be legitimate. Something in your room might cast a spooky-looking shadow at night and cause you to believe that there are monsters lurking around in your room, waiting to eat you alive once you fall asleep. Then, one day, you realize it’s just a huge branch on that tree outside your window and the idea doesn’t seem rational anymore. You forget about the monster.

I think the same goes for eating habits. Something your kid puts in her mouth might feel funny, taste different or require too much valuable time and energy to chew and swallow. So they spit it out and make that “I-can’t-believe-you-just-tried-to-poison-me”-face.

What I do in those situations is pretend that nothing happened or, sometimes when I really think so, tell her she’s silly for not eating something as delicious as what’s in front of her. She’s been eating pretty much everything since she was born, with some exceptions that have come and gone as she’s grown older. She hated tomatoes for a long time but we never stopped serving her salads or foods that included tomatoes. She has always been allowed to sort out the stuff that she didn’t like, but also had the opportunity to try it once more if she liked. She is now stuffing her face with cherry tomatoes as we speak.

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The Ladybug now eats pretty much anything, but has had periods when she’s refused to eat certain types of food or ingredients. She didn’t eat fish at first, but is absolutely crazy for it now. That’s all she would eat if she could. Same goes for tomatoes, onions and quite a few more ingredients. Our philosophy has been to always offer her a taste of anything we have available. That’s why she once munched on a chili pod when we were at the market. She wanted a taste, got one and liked it. When it got too hot for her, she silently handed it to daddy…

Lots of children refuse to eat meat. My theory is that it’s just annoying to eat, especially if there’s somewhere else you need to be (playing with your toys or pulling neatly folded stuff out of a drawer somewhere) and eating is nothing but a dull necessity. Someone offers you a piece of meat that you agree is delicious, but takes SO MUCH TIME to eat compared to pasta, potatoes or bread. You prefer to fill your stomach with whatever is easiest and most comfortable to eat.

I don’t think children (especially toddlers) can decide at an early age if they eat something or not. I think those ideas come and go and if they pass, the opportunity to try it out again has to be there when the time is right. The same goes for odd flavors that you just have to get used to – you never will if you can’t try.

That being said, I know how frustrating it is to eat an extra portion when you’re already stuffed or, even worse, throwing food away. I know how easily the words “you won’t eat it anyway” come to mind, but try to avoid them. After all, you’re the only one who can confirm those odd, irrational ideas and make them stick. 🙂

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  1. Liina says

    November 11, 2013 at 9:55 pm

    I remember how my Mom used to say “We don’t eat that” and I always got mad because just because she didn’t like certain foods or never used to cook them to me doesn’t always mean I don’t like it. But now I’ve been the one to introduce her to new things. Some things she doesn’t like because “she’s never liked it” but some things she used to hate she absolutely loves now. So I think it goes both ways – at first parents shouldn’t limit their children’s eating habits after their own and when kids are all grown up, they can (re)introduce foods to their parents.

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    • miiu says

      November 11, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      yup, you’re definitely right. i guess, with our parents, it’s also a question of what was available back in the day (pretty much nothing compared to what we eat today) and what they’re used to. which brings me back to my point – if you don’t have -time- to get acquainted with different flavors, you probably will end up not liking them “because you’ve never liked it”. how could you have if you haven’t tried? 🙂

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  2. Kairi says

    November 13, 2013 at 10:32 pm

    Trevis nõudis ükskord vorstisaia peale moosi. Sõi ja kiitis aga juurde pole küsinud millegipärast 😀

    Aga selle lihateooriaga olen ma küll nõus. Olen küllaltki veendunud, et minu poisi kehva isu põhjus peitub vähemalt osaliselt selles, et söömine on igav ja tüütu. Peab ju kohapeal ka istuma, kohutav! Igal juhul segab see lapse muid tegemisi. Ja liha on oma tektuuri poolest ebamugav närida, nõuab liiga palju tööd ja vaeva.

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    • miiu says

      November 13, 2013 at 11:05 pm

      no miks sa ei peaks andma lapsele vorstisaia peale moosi – pikantsete gurmeejuustudega süüakse moosi, miks mitte vorstiga? 😀

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  3. Veroniak says

    November 14, 2013 at 3:07 pm

    Totally agree! Toddlers are probably the most picky eaters ever 😀 Mine is enjoying something one day and the next they he hates it with passion. It’s so frustrating when you cook something for him with special care and he just don’t eat it, worst case won’t even give it a try. I’m trying to offer him as much as different things as possible so he will not became like a daddy who don’t eat this and don’t eat that 😀

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